On Chastity, Waiting for Marriage, and Feeling Lost - As-Salaamu 'Alaykum

As-Salaamu 'Alaykum. I’m a 27-year-old Muslim woman, and lately I feel like I’m the only one holding out. Most of my friends have bought into the Western hookup scene and call it feminism or empowerment. To me it’s just a system that ends up hurting families and often benefits the same men who claim to support women’s rights. My closest friend rang me last night to say she lost her virginity - she was the last one with me after 27 years of waiting to share that special moment with her husband. I didn’t want to judge; I asked if it was consensual and whether she’s okay, and she said yes. I told her that’s what matters most. I pray Allah forgives her and guides her. I’m honestly feeling lost. Am I being unrealistic to expect to wait until marriage in this age? Even many Muslim men don’t seem to value chastity now, probably because they can get what they want without commitment. Sometimes I get the urge to give in - I have needs too - but I know in my heart it would be wrong for me if he’s not my husband, and I’d feel guilty afterwards. How do others cope with maintaining chastity? What helps you stay committed to waiting for marriage? Why does society feel so upside-down these days? JazakAllahu khair for any advice or shared experiences - I’d appreciate honest, gentle responses.