Need support dealing with my mom’s controlling behavior

Assalamualaikum, I’m really struggling with my mother’s actions, which she claims are Islamic but feel abusive. As the oldest of three, she often acts like she’s the victim during conflicts, even though she starts them. She uses Quran verses to call us disbelievers, turning our faith into a weapon for control. Here’s what’s happening: * Only allowed to consider potential spouses who are white, with the goal of converting them for religious merit * Cut off from extended family on both sides because she labels them as ‘bad’ * No social media, since she views it as sinful and wants to keep us hidden * No locks on doors at home and no respect for privacy-knocking isn’t a thing * Constant monitoring even though we’re adults; visiting means we can’t go out alone, even for coffee * Financial threats if we disagree-like when she heard I was interested in someone from our own race, she threatened to stop supporting my education Recently, she suspected I liked a Muslim man from our community. I didn’t talk about him to avoid trouble, but my silence made her furious. She yelled at everyone and told my father to remove me from their will, saying I don’t choose ‘good partners.’ She doesn’t know this man at all, and her marriage with my dad is deeply troubled-she’s often ungrateful, lazy, and even hits him when angry. I dream of being independent, but the world’s situation makes it tough. I’ve also realized a lot of her behavior comes from her belief that Judgment Day is near, so she constantly warns we’re sinners headed for hell if we don’t obey. Sadly, this started after she performed Hajj years ago. Any advice would be really appreciated, jazakallah khair.