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My experience combining Istikhara and Tahajjud

Assalamu alaikum everyone, I don’t usually post, just enjoy reading, but I felt like sharing something about combining istikhara and tahajjud. So, there was someone I was getting to know for marriage, and things seemed promising. Out of nowhere, they ended communication, saying they wanted to do things the right way but felt they weren’t mentally prepared. There’s more to it, but basically, after a trip where we talked daily, they came back and just cut me off. I didn’t chase or argue. They said I meant a lot to them and they cared, but they were overthinking. I simply replied that it’s fine and whatever Allah wills will happen, inshallah. We had been talking since March, and I really saw a future, so this hit me hard. I was emotional and felt my heart shatter. I had ended things a month earlier because I wanted to keep it halal, but they returned, saying they missed me and would figure out a way forward. I prayed istikhara during that break, and they came back, so I thought maybe he was my khair. This time, I’ve been confused since he initiated it, but I’ve been praying istikhara after isha and waking up for tahajjud and fajr on time. It only happened a few days ago, but I’ve done it twice now, and subhanAllah, the peace and tranquility I feel is amazing. I’m usually not one to get attached, but he pursued me, so it caught me off guard. The first day, all I thought about was him returning. Now, by the third day, I’m confident that what Allah has written for me will never miss me, and He has taken this matter from my hands. I also listened to Bilal Assad’s video on tawakkul, and I just want to say: don’t underestimate istikhara and tahajjud-and fajr on time! If things work out and he comes back, I’ll definitely try my best to keep this routine. I’ve been more focused at work and happier too. Has anyone else been in a similar situation where things turned out well? Wa alaikum assalam

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SubhanAllah, I love how you left it to Allah. Tawakkul is everything. May Allah grant you what's best, whether it's him or someone better.

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Sis, the fact that he cut things off twice? Maybe that's your answer from istikhara. Just keep your heart open and Allah will send khair.

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Mashallah, you handled it so well. It's so hard when you see a future but Allah's plan is always better. Your imaan is inspiring.

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Oh sister, I had an almost identical situation! Istikhara gave me clarity and a month later I met my now husband. Trust the process 😊

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I needed this reminder. I've been stressing over something and haven't been consistent with my prayers. Your post just gave me that push.

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Bilal Assad's talks are so comforting. That video on tawakkul really shifts your perspective.

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Mashallah sister, your story is really heartwarming. I went through something similar and tahajjud helped me so much. The peace you feel is truly a gift.

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