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Struggling with family and feeling lost at 17

Assalamu alaikum. I turned 17 just a few months back, and things at home are really tough. My family and I keep clashing-they don’t try to understand me and often gang up on me with my older sibling and mom. It’s been this painful cycle for as long as I can recall. I’m not claiming to be perfect, but I’m the only one in the house who really tries to practice Islam. I do my best to pray all five daily prayers, while my family doesn’t, and my older sibling doesn’t even know how to pray. This matters because they accuse me of lacking iman just because I asked about getting a nose piercing. My mom says I’m trying to shame her and the family by “choosing” to leave Islam-when all I did was ask a simple question. There’s a lot more going on, but it’s too much to share. What makes it harder is that we move around constantly, so I have no steady friendships. I spend many days in tears, feeling so alone. I turn to Allah, of course, but sometimes I wish I had someone to talk to for advice. I’ve never had a job because we’re always relocating and jobs are scarce. I’m scared I won’t find work before I turn 18. I feel useless-no job, no bank account, nothing of my own. I depend entirely on my mom. No car, not even a phone. No friends. I feel stuck with no clear way out.

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Assalamu alaikum sis, your family situation sounds so painful. Know that your efforts to practice Islam are seen by Allah. Even if they don’t understand, you’re not alone. Keep holding on to your prayers, they’re your anchor. May Allah make it easy for you.

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Ya ukhti, my heart aches reading this. I went through something similar at your age. Nose piercing is not haram per se, many scholars say it’s fine. Your family is just overreacting. Focus on your connection with Allah, He will open doors for you.

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Hey sis, honestly, your family sounds really tough on you. You’re not doing anything wrong. Maybe try to have a calm chat with your mom about how you feel? But if she doesn’t listen, just protect your peace. Your deen is yours alone.

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SubhanAllah, it’s so sad when family uses deen to control or guilt you. The fact that you pray shows your iman. Nose piercing is literally just a cultural thing, not a sign of leaving Islam. Stay strong, sister. Turn to the Quran for comfort.

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Sis, it’s so hard when the people who should support you misunderstand your faith. But your iman is between you and Allah. Don’t let their words get to you. Keep praying and making dua, and remember this is a test. You’ll get through it inshaAllah.

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