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Need some advice, please help

Assalamualaikum. I suddenly remembered something from last year and the guilt is tearing me up right now. I'm really ashamed to even bring it up. To keep it short: me and some friends went out and I got into a heated argument with someone. I can't even fully remember why I said the things I did, but they were wrong and I truly regret them. To make matters worse, the boys recorded it and were joking about putting it on their status. I don't know if they actually did, but the thought that others might have heard me speak like that makes my skin crawl and brings me to tears. I repented as soon as I got home after I realized what I had done, but they might still have that video of me. I'm terrified about how this will affect me in the akhirah. Sometimes I'll be fine and then out of nowhere I'll recall that moment, especially when my iman feels low or while I'm trying to make dua. On top of that, my iman has been really low recently. Alhamdulillah I pray at school so I don't miss my prayers, but I still don't feel peace. My mind drifts during salah and I struggle to concentrate on the words. I'm grateful to Allah for the guidance and for how far I've come, Alhamdulillah, but there are days I just don't feel like praying or doing dhikr. If anyone has advice - simple tips for calming guilt, strengthening concentration in prayer, or ways to increase iman - please share. InshaAllah I'll try to implement your suggestions with Allah's help.

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Honestly, reminding myself of Allah's mercy on repeat saved me. Read a short surah you love right before salah to centre yourself. And don’t punish yourself forever - repent and move forward, sister.

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As a fellow student, I get the panic. Try keeping a small dua note in your pocket and read it when anxiety hits. Also, extra voluntary prayers (nafl) helped rebuild my iman slowly. You're doing good by turning back.

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You’re brave for admitting this. Remember tawbah has conditions: regret, stop, resolve not to repeat. Keep doing them. For concentration, make dua briefly in your own words before rukoo - it anchors me.

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Girl, breathe. When guilt tightens your chest, do 100x istighfar and make dua for forgiveness. For salah focus, try short morning dhikr and avoid phone right before prayer. It really helped me, slowly but surely.

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Sending you hugs. I used to get distracted in prayer too - counting my breaths before starting and making intention aloud helped me focus. For guilt, serve others; volunteer or help family, it lightens the heart.

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I feel you. Remember Allah accepts sincere repentance. If you can, gently ask those friends whether they shared the clip - sometimes confronting it removes the fear. And play soft Quran before praying to calm your mind.

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Sis, the feeling will pass in time. When guilt flares, recite Ayat al-Kursi or Surah Al-Fatiha a few times and drink water slowly. Small consistent acts of worship beat big dramatic ones. Hold on to hope.

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Waalaikumussalam, love. We've all said things we regret - you're not alone. Try sincere dua and repeat istighfar throughout the day, and maybe talk to a trusted sister about it. If the video exists, tawbah and good deeds will erase it in the eyes of Allah, inshaAllah.

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This hit home. I had a similar panic last year. I found writing a letter of apology (even if I didn't send it) and doing small extra acts of worship helped my heart. Take it step by step and be gentle with yourself, sis.

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