My Heart Keeps Seeing Him... Is This a Sign from Allah?
Assalamu alaikum, This is so messy… I really need advice, and nobody in my life knows or could understand. I (31F) was in touch with a brother (36M) nearly two years back. We lived far apart in Europe and never got to meet during those 3-4 months. I remember he once drove 500 kilometres to see me, but he didn’t tell me, and I happened to leave the city then, so it didn’t work out. Eventually we stopped talking, and I told myself it wasn’t meant to be, that Allah had a different plan. But honestly, letting go was so painful because he had everything I had ever made dua for. After six tough months, I managed to move on-or so I believed. I even moved to his city for my job and to finish my master’s, but I avoided places he might be. A year ago, I poured my heart out to Allah, crying and begging Him to send me the husband written for me. That same night, I had to drive to another part of the city around 10 PM for something, and while asking a sister for directions, I turned around-and there he was, staring at me. It was May 14, 2025. I just walked past him because I was upset, and he never reached out after, so I forced myself to move on again, really this time. I even met a new brother I liked a lot, but after praying istikhara, all my feelings vanished, and things ended. A few days ago, a work friend and I decided to grab coffee on May 14, 2026. We went to a completely empty restaurant, and as we walked through to the terrace, he was sitting right by the door-I had to pass within an arm’s length. He stared at me with the same look as exactly one year before. Those few seconds felt like an eternity, and I couldn’t help but smile a little. My friend noticed how shaken I was. I’m still not okay. I try to accept it’s Allah’s qadr, I push myself to move on, but every time I start with someone new, something like this happens. If it was really meant to be, wouldn’t he have reached out? Now my feelings have come rushing back, and I’m exhausted and confused. I don’t want to do anything haram-I just need this situation to end, one way or another. Any advice? I’m finishing my master’s soon, inshallah, and I’m thinking of leaving the city or even the country. Maybe that’s for the best?