Motherhood after a difficult birth - Assalamualaikum sisters
Assalamualaikum sisters, I’ve been wearing the hijab for a long time and wanted to see if any of you went through something similar and how you coped. My pregnancy was really stressful - lots of trips to triage, admissions for reduced movements, and then around 37 weeks I developed pre‑eclampsia. It got quite serious and I needed an emergency c‑section, which went well, alhamdulillah. But two days later things went downhill. I ended up in ICU having seizures and was separated from my baby for a while. When I returned I felt isolated from the other mums because my situation was unusual and I was still very unwell. I even had to go back to surgery to have my stitches removed and repaired. It was a lot to deal with, but alhamdulillah my baby girl and I are doing well now. I constantly pray to Allah for a long hayat tayyiba for both of us. People told me I nearly died and that my case was severe, and sometimes I felt stared at or like an oddity. I also found myself asking Allah, “Why me?” even though I remind myself that Allah never burdens a soul beyond what it can bear. I’m already in therapy, but I’d love to hear from sisters who went through an unexpected or traumatic birth - how did you heal emotionally and spiritually? What helped you reconnect with your faith and feel at peace again? Any duas, reminders from the Quran, or practical things that helped with bonding and recovery would mean a lot. Jazakillah khair x