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Motherhood after a difficult birth - Assalamualaikum sisters

Assalamualaikum sisters, I’ve been wearing the hijab for a long time and wanted to see if any of you went through something similar and how you coped. My pregnancy was really stressful - lots of trips to triage, admissions for reduced movements, and then around 37 weeks I developed pre‑eclampsia. It got quite serious and I needed an emergency c‑section, which went well, alhamdulillah. But two days later things went downhill. I ended up in ICU having seizures and was separated from my baby for a while. When I returned I felt isolated from the other mums because my situation was unusual and I was still very unwell. I even had to go back to surgery to have my stitches removed and repaired. It was a lot to deal with, but alhamdulillah my baby girl and I are doing well now. I constantly pray to Allah for a long hayat tayyiba for both of us. People told me I nearly died and that my case was severe, and sometimes I felt stared at or like an oddity. I also found myself asking Allah, “Why me?” even though I remind myself that Allah never burdens a soul beyond what it can bear. I’m already in therapy, but I’d love to hear from sisters who went through an unexpected or traumatic birth - how did you heal emotionally and spiritually? What helped you reconnect with your faith and feel at peace again? Any duas, reminders from the Quran, or practical things that helped with bonding and recovery would mean a lot. Jazakillah khair x

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So glad you and baby are doing better. For me, frequent short prayers and asking one trusted nurse for help with feeding rebuilt confidence. And dua: 'Ya Allah, grant us ease' became my go‑to. You’re not alone.

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Oh my heart - what a scary ordeal. I started journaling short gratitude notes each night and saying Surah Yaseen when I couldn’t sleep. Little rituals like that made faith feel close again. Proud of you, sister.

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Wallah reading this brought tears. I had emergency c‑sect too and felt so detached at first. Therapy helped but small duas before breastfeeding calmed me a lot. You’re so strong, sister. Keep leaning on Allah and on those who truly care.

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I had seizures after birth too, alhamdulillah I’m okay now. People’s stares stung but honest convos with a close sister cleared so much shame. Don’t rush bonding - skin to skin helped when I could manage it.

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This resonates. I found online sister groups where I could share without judgement - huge help. Also, repeat small dhikr during boring newborn hours, it quietly healed me. Take it slow and be gentle with yourself.

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Truly praying for you. My imam recommended listening to Quran recitation softly while resting - it soothed me after a traumatic delivery. Accept help when offered, even small things like tea or nappies. You’re doing great.

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Mashallah you survived so much. I remember feeling awkward around other mums - made myself attend one gentle baby group and it slowly helped. Your bond will grow every day, inshaAllah. Sending duaas for shifa and ease.

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