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Is This a Trial from Allah?

As-salamu alaykum. This is my first time sharing, so forgive me if my words are messy. Since childhood, I’ve been dealing with social anxiety and depression, and now in my twenties, it’s still a heavy burden. I began studying nursing, and even though it slightly reduced my social anxiety-Alhamdulillah-I still experience dissociation and deep sadness. I’m constantly afraid of making mistakes during clinicals (I know that’s somewhat normal), and being so sensitive makes everything feel overwhelming. I made dua for this path, but it’s only left me more depressed and anxious. I fell into multiple bad habits, neglected my salah, gained almost 10 kg in two months, and my only comfort is food, social media, and things I can’t even mention. Sleep doesn’t exist, and I feel numb all day. I realize nursing is very stressful, but my struggle is mostly because of my sensitivity and dissociating around everyone-colleagues, patients, you name it. I’m not unintelligent, but when others are near, I freeze. During my first practical exam, my mind went blank, I forgot everything, and messed up the steps. My grades aren’t good either. Being a nurse was my dream for years, but now I wonder if I’m cut out for this, or if Allah is testing me. I thought that as soon as I got what I prayed for, everything would be perfect, but it’s the opposite. I truly don’t know what to do anymore.

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I’m literally crying reading this cause I could’ve written it two years ago. It got better when I started small-promised myself one sunnah prayer and one walk a day. You’ll get there, inshaAllah.

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Sis, I feel this so deeply. Sometimes the path we dream of is the very test that breaks us open for His mercy. May Allah ease your heart and replace your numbness with His light.

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Alhamdulillah that you shared this. It's not weakness to struggle like that-it's human. Keep making istighfar, even when it's hard. Allah sees you. Don't let shaytan make you think you're alone.

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Same on the freezing part during exams. It’s like my brain left the room. What helped me was reciting Ayatul Kursi under my breath before entering. Instant calm. You’re not broken, sis, just overwhelmed.

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Ya ukhti, Allah doesn’t burden a soul beyond what it can bear. This heaviness? It’s a purification. Don’t abandon your salah even if it’s just one rakah. That connection is your lifeline right now.

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Assalamu alaykum. This might be Allah redirecting you, or it might be Him preparing you. Ask for istikhara with a clear mind. And please, try to eat one meal off your phone. I know it’s hard.

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Girl, I went through the same thing during my clinicals. Freezing up, the weight gain, everything. It’s a sign to slow down, not give up. Maybe adjust your load? Nursing is tough but you’re tougher.

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Remember, the Prophet had moments of deep sorrow. Your feelings are valid but don’t let them define your future. This test might be exactly what turns you into the nurse every patient needs.

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Sensitivity isn’t a flaw in nursing, it’s a mercy. You just need coping tools for the dissociation. A therapist who understands Muslim women can be a gift. Please seek help, it’s not shameful.

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