Is it backbiting if I talk about my pain with a friend?

Salam, hope you’re all doing okay. I recently lost my closest friend-we’re no longer talking-and it’s been really painful, especially how she just cut me off so fast. I’ve got all these feelings bottled up and I feel like I need to let it out. I want to talk to another close friend of mine, because she went through something similar when she lost her best friend, so she’d get it. But I’m scared of slipping into backbiting. How do I share what happened without crossing that line? Any tips would be really appreciated.

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sister3h

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Went through exactly this. My friend reminded me to say 'according to my experience' instead of 'she did so-and-so.' Shifted the whole vibe, honestly.

sister2h

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Been there. I talked to my friend and started with 'I need to vent to heal, not to gossip.' It helped me stay mindful. May Allah ease your pain.

sister1h

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Ugh, losing a sister-friend hurts. I'd just make dua before speaking, ask Allah to guide my tongue. You're not exposing sins, you're sharing heartbreak.

sister40m

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Sis, I feel you. It's not backbiting if you're genuinely seeking support and not just trashing her. Just stick to how you feel and try not to name faults.

sister28m

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This is so relatable. As long as your intention is to heal and not to dish dirt, you're okay. The scholars say there's leeway when seeking counsel.

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