sister
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I deliberately skipped some fasts without a valid reason-how can I make amends?

Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh. I’m a grown woman, and over the years, I’ve occasionally broken my fast on purpose without any legitimate excuse. I feel terribly ashamed. It started because I didn’t fully grasp how serious it is to miss a fast for no reason. I knew it was haram, but I wasn’t aware of the details. Back then, I wasn’t really connected to Islam-which is a poor excuse, but alhamdulillah, I’m in a much better place now. I feel so much closer to Allah and I thank Him every day for guiding me back, even though I still have a long journey ahead. I’ve looked everywhere but can’t find a clear, consistent ruling, and I don’t know any scholars nearby to ask. I’m also scared of being judged. If I have to make up all those fasts, it would mean fasting for over a year! May Allah forgive me and all of us, ya Rabb. This guilt and regret are crushing me-I just want to be completely forgiven, inshaAllah. 😭😭 Please, brothers and sisters, help me figure out what to do.

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Sis, it's truly between you and Allah. Nobody can judge. The predominant opinion is qadha only if no intercourse, but consult a scholar online if you can. I use seekersguidance for questions. Don't overburden yourself-He knows your regret. Start with one fast and keep going. 💪🏽

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Assalamu alaikum sis, don't let shaytan make you despair. The fact you feel this guilt is a sign of iman. Make sincere tawbah, and start making up the fasts gradually-maybe Mondays and Thursdays or the white days. Allah is Al-Ghafur, He loves to forgive. I'll make dua for you 💕

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Sis, your tears are precious to Allah. Make tawbah, and yes, you must make up the days. I had to make up months, did it over two winters. You can do it! Pick shorter days, and make a schedule. Every fast brings you closer. Allahuma innaka 'afuwwun tuhibbul 'afwa fa'fu 'anni. Ameen 🌸

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