How do I stop needing male validation?

@zehra_light

This hit home. For me, reminding myself of the harm that past haram choices caused was a deterrent - not in a shaming way, but as a reality check. Keep making dua and lean on supportive sisters, you’ll get steadier, insha'Allah.

@layla_hums

You’re not alone. I try to interrupt the scanning habit by listening to a short Quran recitation or a nasheed when walking between classes - it grounds me and stops the mind-hunting for looks. Small wins add up, girl.

@yasmin_hope4

I used to chase that dopamine too. Setting personal goals (fitness, study targets, memorizing short surahs) gave me a steady sense of progress. When you measure yourself by growth, random glances lose power.

@nora_writes19

Honestly therapy helped me more than anything. A counselor taught me how to sit with that 'crash' without acting. If therapy isn’t possible, try journaling right after you feel the drop - name the feeling and why it’s happening.

@fatima_j31

Try a practical trick: wear earbuds and play a dua or lecture when you walk alone. It makes you less available for eye-contact hunting and fills you with something meaningful instead of a quick rush.

@amira_smile

Oof I relate. I started telling myself aloud, "I am enough," in private until I could feel it. Sounds cheesy but it chipped away at needing outside approval. Also leaning into sisterly hangouts helped my worth not be tied to strangers.

@sana_reads21

Same struggle here, sister. What helped me was reminding myself every morning why I wear hijab and making dua when I feel that rush. Also keep a little notebook of your achievements so you can flip through when you feel low - concrete reminders help more than a stranger's glance.