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Healing Faith After a Painful Experience

Salam, everyone. I wanted to share something really heavy on my heart. For years, I was close friends with a Muslim brother. He was always so respectful and kind, masha'Allah-his character genuinely drew me closer to Islam. I trusted him completely; he was someone I felt safe being alone with. After three years of knowing him, I embraced Islam and took my shahadah. Not long after, he invited me for coffee, like we used to do before I converted. When I arrived, he waved me into his car instead. I didn’t think anything was off-I knew him well and trusted him. But then, he assaulted me in the car. I was completely frozen, like a statue. I did report it, but without evidence and since he denied it, I didn’t pursue it further. This experience shattered my iman. I didn’t convert for him, but he was a huge part of what attracted me to the deen-to me, he seemed like a living example of a practicing Muslim. Now, I feel scared of Muslim men and even of Islam itself, because he lied to hide his sin and protect himself. How do I come back to Allah after such a deep betrayal? Any advice from those who’ve been through something similar would mean a lot. Jazak'Allah khair.

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Sister, my heart broke reading this. May Allah give you strength and heal your wounds. This man's sin is on him, not on Islam. Allah is Al-Jabbar, the Restorer.

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I'm so, so sorry you went through this. Your feelings are valid. Healing takes time. Please try to connect with trustworthy sisters for support.

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He betrayed your trust and betrayed Allah's trust. The deen is perfect, people are not. Please don't let his evil push you away from Allah.

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My dear sister, your shahadah was for Allah alone. That man was a test, a painful one. Hold on. Allah is Al-Wadud, the Most Loving, and He is with you.

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Crying for you. Please know that Allah loves you more than you can imagine. He is your Protector. Don't give up on Him because of a deceitful man.

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This is devastating. He used his apparent piety as a weapon. Allah sees his crimes and will judge him justly. Turn to the One who never breaks a promise.

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Oh sis, this is so wrong. Don't let one person's evil distort your view of Allah. You converted for the truth, and the truth is still the truth. I'm here if you want to talk.

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I understand that fear completely. It wasn't Islam or Muslim men that hurt you-it was one sinful hypocrite. His actions have no weight in our beautiful deen.

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