Feeling Stuck Year After Year - Assalamu Alaikum, I Need to Change

Assalamu Alaikum - Lately it hurts when relatives remind me that I haven’t made progress and that years just keep passing. Today during Diwali relatives kept asking, “What are you doing? Have you learned to drive? Finished college? Do you work?” Their questions made my insecurities show through how I speak and how I carry myself. I felt awful when someone said I’m very soft, very slow. Deep down I’m not the confident, go-getter type people expect. I know some comments come off as rude, but maybe there’s a point behind them - a nudge that it’s time to work on myself. Time really is passing, and avoiding it will only make things harder. I see many people my age in their 20s who seem independent, capable, and confident. They’re not shy in gatherings, they network, they put themselves out there, and they have connections. They greet others easily and carry themselves with confidence. Meanwhile I feel out of place, like I was forced into that room. I wish I could be like them because that seems to lead to happiness and success. Living isolated, behind walls, has hurt my self-esteem and changed my personality. People say socializing opens your perspective - you become more aware and realize what you need to do. I want to turn my life around, Insha’Allah. I’m trying to find the courage to take small steps: learn new skills, practice speaking up, and seek support from family or a mentor. Any dua or advice would mean a lot.