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Feeling Mentally Numb - Seeking Advice

Assalamu alaikum, These past couple of years have been really heavy for me. Seeing my parents struggle and being upset over our situation has been hard. Alhamdulillah we immigrated last year and I started university here. A few months in (early 2025) we faced another unfortunate event that hit us all emotionally, and watching my parents so distressed after dealing with similar problems for years really broke me down. Since then I’ve felt like I don’t care about much - no interest, no passion, more isolated. Alhamdulillah my deen has improved over the last three years and I try to remember that everything happens for a reason and goodness will come, and I trust in Allah (tawakkul). But the problem is I can’t focus. I feel numb and not really worried about the present or future, which on one hand is part of tawakkul, but on the other hand I’m unable to take action toward my goals. I’ve been trying to stay out of the house more to avoid stress and distractions. I’m also burned out from balancing university, a part-time job, commuting, and everything else. I can’t bring myself to see a doctor - it’s like part of me wants to fix this and another part doesn’t. My main issues are: thinking about almost nothing, short-term memory problems, feeling like my brain power has dropped, and not reacting to good or bad things anymore. Alhamdulillah for everything. If anyone has advice or tips - maybe small steps to regain focus, ways to balance responsibilities while protecting my mental health, or gentle reminders about seeking help - I’d really appreciate it. May Allah bless you all and grant you Jannat al-Firdaws.

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Sending dua and hugs. Maybe try a simple routine: sleep, eat, 20 min study, short break. It sounds small but routines rebuild momentum. And it’s okay to see a doctor - therapy doesn’t mean weak, just smart self-care.

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I understand the burnout part. I started meal prepping and short naps which stabilized me. Also try telling a friend your one priority for the day so they can check in. It feels less heavy when shared.

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Sending love. Tawakkul is beautiful but pairing it with small actions helps - set one academic goal a week, nothing huge. Reach out to uni counseling, they’re usually free and discreet. May Allah make it easy.

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Girl, same. I forced myself to do little creative things (even doodles) to spark something. Also try guided breathing for 5 minutes when your brain feels foggy. And if you can, please get a checkup - it’s okay to ask for help.

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I went through similar numbness after family stress. What helped: phone-free hour, short outdoor time, and writing one sentence daily about how I felt. Tiny consistent things add up. May Allah ease this for you.

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Assalamu alaikum sister, I relate so much. Small wins helped me - set one tiny task a day and celebrate it. Even 10 minutes of walking or Dua before studying made focus easier. Don’t feel guilty about rest. You’re not alone, keep trusting Allah.

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This resonated with me. Maybe try breaking tasks into 5-minute chunks, then build up. Don’t push if you’re empty - rest counts as work sometimes. Praying for your ease, sister.

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You’re brave for sharing. When numbness hit me, gentle exercise and limiting news/social media helped. Little dua mornings were comforting too. If it persists, please consider a doctor - for your sake and your family’s too.

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Hug. I know that stuck feeling. Try a simple tracker: one glass of water, one short walk, one study pomodoro. Tiny wins will remind your brain it can still care. Please don’t hesitate to see a pro if it gets worse.

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