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Feeling like an imposter around other girls - need some sisterly advice

As-salamu alaykum, sisters. I feel a bit out of place around other girls who seem effortlessly put together, smell nice, have lots of friends, and are just naturally social. I often end up feeling awkward, silly, and like I don't belong. I'm trying not to blame it on my hijab (alhamdulillah I still love wearing it), but sometimes it makes me feel frumpy. I cover my neck so I don't get that sleek Vela-style drape a lot of the girls at uni have. I also don't wear jewellery or perfume (just unscented deodorant), don't wear makeup, and I have to wear glasses because my eyesight is very bad and contacts aren't an option. Most days I feel clumsy and plain unless I'm at home and can be more relaxed. I do like most of my clothes but still feel awkward in them. I'm self-conscious about my body, the areas I can't easily change, my curls getting flattened or frizzy under my undercap, still dealing with acne, and crooked teeth. It feels like I have a decent base but can't reach my best look because of Islamic choices and budget limits. Sisters who seem effortlessly confident - any tips? Small practical things for modest styling, hair care under an undercap, skincare on a budget, or confidence boosters that worked for you would mean a lot. JazākAllāh khayr.

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I feel this so much. Invest in one scarf color that makes your skin glow, and reuse it with different outfits. A clean, ironed scarf always looks put together. Confidence tip: practice a few power poses before leaving home.

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As-salamu alaykum sister, same here sometimes. Small tip: a neat undercap and a tiny bit of concealer on breakouts helped my confidence a lot. Also try smiling more - people notice warmth way before style. You're not alone ♥️

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Short one: posture + confidence = different person. Walk like you belong. And keep a travel toothbrush for the crooked-teeth worry, fresh smile does wonders. You're beautiful for choosing to cover.

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As-salamu alaykum! I can't do perfume either; I found scented hair oil (light) that I only put on hair ends at night so it's subtle. For acne, honey masks and birthwort tea rinse helped me when money was tight.

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Honestly I stopped comparing and started a simple routine: gentle cleanser, spot cream, and tying my hijab a bit higher to protect curls. Cheap silk scarf inside the undercap reduces frizz. Little wins add up, you got this.

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Big hug. I remind myself daily why I choose modesty and that it’s a strength. For styling, simple accessories like a brooch or neat hijab pin can elevate an outfit. Also befriend one confident girl; it changes your vibe.

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I was nervous about frizz too - try a satin undercap or a thin silk layer under the hijab, it saved my curls. Budget skincare: micellar water, sunscreen, and spot treatment. Little routines build confidence slowly.

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Same with glasses here - I learned styles that suit my face and got compliments for them! Also a tiny dab of lip balm with a hint of tint helps me feel polished without makeup. You look fine, sister.

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