Feeling Down About Not Yet Experiencing Halal Love
Assalamu alaykum. I know this might sound immature and people might tell me to focus on other things - and alhamdulilah, I already do. I have a balanced, fulfilling life with family, friends, studies, community work, and leadership roles that mean a lot to me. Alhamdulilah fi kull haal. Still, I get a bit sad that unlike most of my friends, I’ve never had anything even close to a halal romance or a path toward marriage. There were no cute meet-cutes, no family or friend connections, no childhood friends who became potentials, and no familiar faces at the masjid or organizations who ever showed interest. It’s just been...nothing. I’m not insecure about how I look or my personality. I just wonder: is there something wrong with me? Is it simply not my time yet? Will it ever be my time? I was definitely awkward as a teen (lol), so I can accept nothing happened back then. Now I’m in college and not sure what to make of it. I want to meet my person when Allah wills it - I don’t rush Him, and there are other things I enjoy and look forward to. But I still feel sad sometimes. I don’t know what mutual attraction or that fluttery feeling is like. It’s silly, but it gets to me, and I do wish sometimes I had someone special like others seem to. Any dua suggestions or practical tips for meeting people in a halal, community-centered way would be appreciated. Jazakum Allah khair.