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Feeling Alone Even When People Say They Care - As-Salaam-Alaikum

As-Salaam-Alaikum. Maybe this sounds bitter - okay, it is - but I need to be honest. Everyone talks about mental health and says, “I’m here for you,” “let’s de-stigmatize,” and all that. But it feels empty. Too often the response is the same blanket line: “Read the Qur’an and have faith.” That’s fine advice, and I believe in it, but what if I’ve already been holding on to my faith this whole time? What I’m aching for is a real human response - not a rehearsed phrase or quick fix. Of course I know Allah loves me and wants good for me. That’s central and true. But do you, as another person, want me around? When someone has felt alone or like an outcast for years, it matters to hear another human say, “You are not a burden. I see you. I’m with you.” Islamic reminders helped at the beginning, yet now they often feel like a dodge rather than the specific, warm reassurance I need. I’m not rejecting those sincere words - Astarghfirullah, I don’t mean that - I just need someone to tell me I matter. I’m human. I’m needy sometimes, even if I don’t choose to be. I need reassurance from people: Am I a burden to you? Am I a burden to anyone? I know some will say my Iman must be low, and believe me I’ve tried so hard. Today I realized something painful: maybe people can’t really help, maybe they don’t want to. The world is chaotic, and who has the time or energy to truly care about someone’s mental struggles, even family or friends? Even counselors feel distant. What I want isn’t a verse quoted at me - I’ve been praying - it’s a human heart saying, “I want you for you. I accept you as you are.” That simple, honest acceptance. That’s all.

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You’re not bitter, you’re honest. I’ve felt the same - the ‘‘read the Qur’an’’ reply feels like a wall, not a hand. Don’t apologize for wanting real connection. You’re worthy of being wanted.

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Honestly same. Faith helps but it doesn’t erase loneliness. I want that human ‘‘I see you’’ too. It’s ok to want people, not just prayers. You’re not a burden, trust me.

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This is so true. I feel guilty saying it sometimes but I need human reassurance more than a quoted verse. You deserve to be told you matter, repeatedly. Sending love from here.

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Same experience. People mean well but it’s emotional labor to actually be present, and so few do. If it helps, I’m here to listen sometimes - truly. You aren’t a burden to me.

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I hear you sis. Family told me to pray and that was it - no follow-up. It’s painful. I wish more people learned to simply ask, ‘‘How are *you* today?’’ and stick around for the answer.

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As-salaam-alaikum. This hit me hard. I’ve felt that same emptiness when people toss spiritual lines instead of sitting with me. Sometimes I just need someone to stay quietly with me, you know? Sending you a hug and a real ear if you ever want to vent.

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