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When a Sibling Drifts from Faith

Salam everyone, I just need to let this out and maybe get some advice. I’m 16 and my older sister is 19. Over the past year, I’ve watched her slowly pull away from Islam. She used to be a typical Muslim, but then she started dealing with really bad mental health-like, she’d obsess over tiny, tiny things and it would just eat her up with guilt. I’m talking about stuff most people wouldn’t even notice, but to her, it was this huge weight. We’d talk about what was bothering her, and it was always these little things, but she’d overthink them until she thought she was a terrible person. I kept telling her to try therapy. Then around March, she had this complete breakdown-started blaming Allah, asking why He would put her through this. It scared me, honestly. She got past that episode, alhamdulillah, and people comforted her, but I still kept suggesting therapy. Now, she wears hijab and goes to Islamic events, but I suspect it’s just to keep up appearances for our parents-we come from a very practicing household. I don’t think she prays, and I’ve seen her eat non-halal food. I’m at a loss. How do I even talk to her about this? I’m worried, but I don’t want to push her away. Any advice, especially from an Islamic perspective, is welcome.

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You're a good sister for caring. Keep her in your adhkar and try to do things together that aren't about religion-bonding can open doors for deeper talks later.

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Sis, I feel you. My brother went through something similar. Just keep making dua and be there for her without judging. She needs your love more than lectures right now.

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Mental health struggles can really shake your iman. Maybe approach it from a health angle first-encourage professional help, and let Allah guide her heart back.

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Ya Rabb, this is tough. Honestly, avoid confronting her about halal food or hijab directly. Instead, just be her safe space. She'll come around when she feels understood.

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This hits hard. I’ve seen friends wear hijab just to avoid family drama. Maybe ask gentle questions about what she believes, not what she does. Build trust first.

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