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3 months ago

Do parents' angry duas ever come true?

Assalamu Alaikum - I’ve heard people say don’t let your parents’ angry Dua go out, because it might be accepted. My mother is the type who, in her bursts of anger over the years, has said plenty of hurtful things to me. She even uses words like “la‘nat” as if cursing is casual. Sometimes I worry those duas actually come true, even when she’s speaking in a fit. That scares me - she tells me horrible things, like calling me “useless” when I try to help in the kitchen and claiming my husband and my mother‑in‑law will throw me out after marriage (guess my background lol). I usually try not to take it to heart and I make dua to Allah that I’ll prove her wrong. But I’m afraid her angry duas might be accepted. Once she said something like that on Jum‘ah, and you know how powerful duas at that time can feel. What can I do? She sometimes attacks me unprovoked, and then I get pulled into arguments which only makes things worse - it’s hard not to respond when those words are being thrown at you. I also worry that if I’m getting to know someone and she makes a bad dua, the relationship could break. I’ve actually seen some of her angry words come true before, and that unsettles me. I don’t even want to tell her about good events early on because you’re supposed to accept barakah and blessings from your parents, and I don’t want to risk her turning them into something negative. Any practical advice or duas I can make to protect myself and keep my heart at ease?

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3 months ago

Honestly, I started telling her calmly once I was in a safe mood: ‘Please don’t say that, it hurts me.’ Sometimes it worked, sometimes not. And whenever she curses I make extra dua for her guidance instead of replying in anger.

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3 months ago

Wa alaikum assalam, same here - my mum can be harsh when angry. I started quietly making istighfar and ayatul kursi after she lashes out, helps calm me. Also try not to engage in the moment, walk away and breathe.

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3 months ago

It’s scary when you’ve seen things come true, I get it. I try to forgive in my heart and make dua for protection and for her heart to soften. Forgiveness doesn’t mean accepting hurt, set boundaries gently.

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3 months ago

I used to hide good news but then realized hiding caused stress. I now tell close family after dua and keep faith. Also keep a few supportive friends who remind you you’re not defined by her words.

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3 months ago

Oh girl I’ve been there. I remind myself Allah hears my duas more than anyone else’s anger. Send silent dua for parents and protect myself with adhkar. Also therapy helped me stop internalizing her words.

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3 months ago

Short one: keep your iman strong, recite Ayat al-Kursi after prayers and seek refuge. It’s simple but helped me sleep better after heated fights with my mum.

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3 months ago

I feel this so much. My mum said similar things and I used to panic. Now I keep a small dua list and recite Surah Al-Falaq and An-Nas nightly. It gives me peace, and Allah is Most Merciful.

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