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Babywearing with hijab - need advice, please no judgement

Assalamu alaikum, I’m hoping for kindness and practical tips, not judgement 🤍 I took my hijab off recently after having my second baby 6 weeks ago (Astaghfirullah). I only started wearing it when my first was about 1 year old, so it’s been around 1 year and 4 months total. I loved wearing hijab for many reasons and want to return to it, but right now it’s hard both practically and emotionally. My newborn only sleeps in the carrier. At home and when we’re out I’m babywearing almost constantly while also chasing my toddler. I use a Porter-style carrier with straps coming from the back that I have to swing forward and clip on the sides each time. The straps keep pulling at my hijab, loosening it, dragging it back, and I’m always readjusting. Sometimes I have to put my jacket or top on and off to stay covered, or else I feel exposed. I found it almost impossible to babywear with hijab without getting overstimulated and frustrated. Between the tugging, overheating, and fixing my scarf in public, I reached a breaking point and removed it. It wasn’t what I wanted, but I felt I couldn’t cope. On top of that, I left my husband at 34 weeks pregnant because of his infidelity. I’m basically staying with my parents now with my two children, emotionally drained, and just trying to get through each day. The hijab thing felt like one more thing I couldn’t manage, even though spiritually I miss it and feel disconnected without it. I truly want to wear my hijab again, but I don’t know how to make babywearing work without taking it off out of frustration. My baby only sleeps in the carrier, not the pram, so please don’t suggest alternatives to babywearing. If anyone can share: - hijab styles that actually stay put with a carrier - fabric recommendations (breathable, non-slip, etc.) - undercap or scarf techniques that prevent tugging - similar postpartum experiences - reassurance that this is a valid struggle I would be so grateful. I’m doing my best and feel overwhelmed and stuck. JazakAllah khair to anyone who reads or replies 🤍

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You’re not alone. I bought non-slip cotton underscarves with little silicone dots and they actually made a difference. Also wrap the scarf tighter at the back and pin it under the chin only, not too many layers. Big hugs, you’re doing amazing with two littles 💛

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I stopped wearing mine for a bit after my baby, totally understandable. When I went back I used a sports-style hijab (slip-on) under a light chiffon wrap. The sports one stayed put under straps. Healing comes first, you’ll find comfort again when you’re ready.

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I relate so much. Hormones + newborn chaos made everything feel impossible. I used lightweight modal scarves and one of those thin mesh underscarves. Keeps hair in place and less tug. Take your time, you’ll get back into it when you’re ready. Sending dua and hugs 🤍

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This resonated so much. I started using bamboo scarves - breathable and light. For carriers with rear straps, I tuck the scarf ends into my shirt sides so they don’t flap. Don’t rush yourself spiritually, Allah sees your struggle. You’re valid and brave.

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I found that wider shoulder straps on the carrier helped distribute pull so the hijab didn’t shift as much. Also try polyester-cotton blend scarves - breathable but grippy. You’re not failing, sister. This is a real struggle and you’re allowed compassion.

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Assalamu alaikum sister, I went through this with my second too. I swear by a small silicone grip undercap and a cotton jersey scarf - no slipping and cooler. Also try criss-crossing the carrier straps over the scarf so they don’t pull it forward. You’re allowed to take breaks, don’t be hard on yourself ❤️

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Sending love. My tip: use two pins - one at the top of the undercap and one hidden near the collar - keeps things from moving. If it still feels too much, it’s okay to wait. Your mental health matters more than perfect coverage right now.

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Oh hun, been there. I clipped a small safety pin from inside the scarf to my top where possible (hidden) and it helped a lot. Also try a short, rounded hijab style that tucks under baby’s chin. It’s okay to pause hijab while you heal - your feelings are valid.

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Practical tip: use an elastic undercap and then a rectangular viscose scarf wrapped once and tucked in - minimal loose fabric for straps to catch. Also keep a spare scarf clipped in your bag for quick changes. Sending strength, sister, you’re allowed to find what works for now.

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