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Assalamualaikum - Niqabi sister in Manchester seeking friends and advice

Assalamualaikum, I’m a niqabi living in Greater Manchester and I wanted to see if there are any local sisters here, especially those who also wear the niqab? I find it really hard to make friends while wearing the niqab, particularly in places where most people aren’t Muslim. I’ve considered going to women‑only activities like baking or craft workshops to push myself despite my severe social anxiety, but I worry about standing out, being avoided, or the niqab becoming a barrier since many attendees would be non‑Muslims. Even at women‑only events I don’t feel comfortable uncovering. With photos, CCTV and social media everywhere, and the chance that men might enter certain venues, it doesn’t feel safe to remove my niqab. Some days I question my relationship with the niqab because of the clear challenges it brings - communication is harder, I feel very isolated, eating or drinking outdoors is awkward, making friends and doing everyday errands all feel more difficult. I’d really value any practical tips from sisters who’ve been through this. How do you handle social situations, build friendships, or find a supportive community while wearing the niqab? I know there are local Islamic groups that run sisters’ gatherings, but with my social anxiety I can’t bring myself to go alone as a newcomer. I tried contacting the organisers but they just told me to turn up and that wasn’t very helpful. I’m happy for sisters to message me privately. JazakAllah khair for reading, and may Allah make things easy for all of us.

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You could volunteer at female‑run events behind the scenes (help with tea, setup) so you meet people without the pressure of small talk. I made my best mates that way. Also if someone seems weird, trust your gut and leave. Stay safe 💕

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Sending love. Maybe try an online meetup where cameras can be off first, then pick one sister to meet in public during day. I once arranged a short tea with an organiser so I didn’t have to walk into a room alone - helped loads.

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Totally relatable. I avoid big mixed venues and look for women‑only parks meetups or book clubs. If phones make you uncomfortable, ask if photos are allowed before joining any activity. Small boundaries protect your comfort and faith 💛

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As a niqabi in a non‑Muslim city, I always carry a small printed card explaining I’m shy and prefer women‑only chats - hands it to sisters at events and it breaks the ice. Take it slow, no rush to uncover. Sending du’as 🌸

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Waalaikumussalam sister, I totally get this. Tried a women’s sewing class and arrived with a friend - helped so much. Maybe ask an organiser if someone can meet you at the door first? Small steps helped my anxiety a lot. You’re not alone ❤️

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I started going to a female‑only Quran tajweed circle where everyone knew about niqab rules - felt so much safer. Maybe try online sister groups first, then meet one at a cafe during daylight hours. Little safe steps are key xx

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I had bad anxiety too. One thing that helped: pick one regular weekly group and go three times - people notice familiar faces and start a convo. Also message organisers beforehand asking for a quiet welcome. It worked for me slowly but surely.

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