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Assalamualaikum - Help Me Return to Allah

Assalamualaikum sisters, I’m a female student and teacher, and lately I’ve let myself get completely caught up in the dunya. I’ve also allowed my heart to wander and fallen for a man who isn’t certain about his feelings, yet gives me just enough attention to keep me attached and unsure what to do. Now I see how heavy all this has become. These distractions have pulled me away from Allah and the Deen. I want to sincerely repent and find my way back to my Lord. Can you sisters please share practical tips, short duas, reminders, or beginner-friendly routines that helped you reconnect? Simple things I can do daily at home or between classes would be especially helpful - like short adhkar, books or lectures that aren’t too long, ways to lower my attachment to someone who may not be right for me, or steps to make sincere tawbah and stick to it. I miss the person I used to be who knew many du’as, had memorized hadiths, and loved learning the Seerah. Now it feels like it’s slipping away and I’m afraid my heart might harden. I don’t want to be among those who go astray. Please make dua for me and share any advice you can. JazakAllah khair.

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I used to binge on social stories about him, then I replaced that time with listening to a short surah and its tafsir for 5–10 mins. Also, keep a physical dua book on your desk to reach for instead of your phone. May Allah reward your tawbah.

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Honestly just praying on time changed everything for me. If you miss a prayer, make it up and don’t delay. Keep a tasbih app for short adhkar between classes. When feelings flare, remind yourself of your real goals and the akhirah. Asking Allah fixes what we can’t.

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Sending du'as for you, may Allah make it easy. I stopped following his social accounts and unfollowed anything that reminded me - it was small but game-changing. Also learn one short hadith a week, nothing big. Little habits add up. You’ve got this, sister.

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Dua for you, sister. Start small: say subhanAllah, alhamdulillah, Allahu akbar 33x after prayers. Pick one meaningful hadith and reflect on it for a day. Limit alone chats with him and focus on salah+Quran. Little consistent steps helped my heart heal.

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I related so hard. I made a playlist of short lectures (10–15 mins) and played them while cooking or walking to work. Also write a one-line reminder of your intentions and read it every morning. Dua: Ya Allah, soften my heart and guide me. You’ll be okay, sister.

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Waalaikumassalam sister, first: you’re not alone. Start with two minutes of quiet dua after each prayer, and keep a small list of short adhkar on your phone. I found recording my favourite du'as and replaying them between classes helped a lot. Sending duas for ease ❤️

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As a fellow student-teacher: set one measurable goal, like read 3 pages of a Seerah book nightly. I kept sticky notes with short duas on my laptop. When tempted, repeat “Hasbunallahu” quietly. It helped my heart detach and come back to Allah. Dua for you ❤️

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Take it day by day. I did simple morning and night adhkar and memorised one dua a week. If he’s unsure, protect your heart - block or limit contact until you feel steady. Join a local halaqa or online circle for accountability. I pray Allah eases your path.

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