Assalamu alaykum - I can’t get myself to do anything even though I want to
Assalamu alaykum, strangers. I (22F) feel really lost and don’t know where to begin to make things better. My day usually goes like this: - Wake up tired around 11am–2pm - Shower - Try to push myself to do stuff (self-care, chores, or hobbies) using different tricks - schedules, a bullet journal, habit trackers, timers/pomodoros, breaking tasks down, visualizing finishing things, and so on - Eat breakfast (usually rice and eggs or a protein shake) - Smoke weed and hang out with friends - Rewatch shows I’ve already seen or nap until I feel like being around people (still trying to motivate myself) - Sleep around 12am–4am (so I still get long sleep) I’ve struggled to keep a job this past year because I’d go to work crying and couldn’t stop, to the point I couldn’t do my duties. I feel a lot of financial pressure because of that. I’m about to start a new job and I’m terrified it will happen again - nothing really feels different. I have a long list of goals I want to do, with habits and steps written down, and yet I don’t follow through. I want to learn Spanish, go to the gym in the mornings (I used to enjoy running and would just do it when I woke up), walk my dog and appreciate the outdoors, and I miss the motivation to cook and try new meals. I’ve been trying to stop smoking weed for over a year and it’s been really hard. I’ve had a lot of professional help - years of therapy and many medication trials. It helped at first, but recently I feel like there’s nothing left to say in therapy or the therapist doesn’t know how to respond. Meds have hurt or not helped. Doctors argue about whether this is ADHD, depression, anxiety, PTSD, or OCPD, so I’m not sure anyone really knows what’s going on more than I do. My recent blood tests were normal. I’ll take anything: kind words, practical advice, a nudge to get moving, or even someone telling me to snap out of it. I’d really appreciate dua, encouragement, and any tips from others who’ve been through similar struggles - especially from sisters who balance iman, work, and mental health. JazākAllāh khayr.