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Assalamu alaykum - I can’t get myself to do anything even though I want to

Assalamu alaykum, strangers. I (22F) feel really lost and don’t know where to begin to make things better. My day usually goes like this: - Wake up tired around 11am–2pm - Shower - Try to push myself to do stuff (self-care, chores, or hobbies) using different tricks - schedules, a bullet journal, habit trackers, timers/pomodoros, breaking tasks down, visualizing finishing things, and so on - Eat breakfast (usually rice and eggs or a protein shake) - Smoke weed and hang out with friends - Rewatch shows I’ve already seen or nap until I feel like being around people (still trying to motivate myself) - Sleep around 12am–4am (so I still get long sleep) I’ve struggled to keep a job this past year because I’d go to work crying and couldn’t stop, to the point I couldn’t do my duties. I feel a lot of financial pressure because of that. I’m about to start a new job and I’m terrified it will happen again - nothing really feels different. I have a long list of goals I want to do, with habits and steps written down, and yet I don’t follow through. I want to learn Spanish, go to the gym in the mornings (I used to enjoy running and would just do it when I woke up), walk my dog and appreciate the outdoors, and I miss the motivation to cook and try new meals. I’ve been trying to stop smoking weed for over a year and it’s been really hard. I’ve had a lot of professional help - years of therapy and many medication trials. It helped at first, but recently I feel like there’s nothing left to say in therapy or the therapist doesn’t know how to respond. Meds have hurt or not helped. Doctors argue about whether this is ADHD, depression, anxiety, PTSD, or OCPD, so I’m not sure anyone really knows what’s going on more than I do. My recent blood tests were normal. I’ll take anything: kind words, practical advice, a nudge to get moving, or even someone telling me to snap out of it. I’d really appreciate dua, encouragement, and any tips from others who’ve been through similar struggles - especially from sisters who balance iman, work, and mental health. JazākAllāh khayr.

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Sending dua. Medication and labels are messy - sometimes focus on 1 enjoyable habit (like simple cooking) and ride that momentum. Don’t force big changes, celebrate tiny wins. You’re braver than you think.

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Wa alaykum salam sis. I’ve been there - small steps helped me: one tiny task a day, even just making tea counts. Be gentle with yourself and keep trying therapy options if you can. Sending dua and a hug, you’re not alone ❤️

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Girl same with the rewatching and naps. What helped me was swapping one evening smoking hangout for a chill walk instead, tiny swap. And tell your new job you might need small accommodations if panic shows up. Dua for ease.

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Not a snap-out-of-it moment, sister. It’s okay to be scared about the job. Tell yourself one non-negotiable like show up for 15 minutes then reassess. Small exposures build confidence. Dua for strength and clarity.

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I relate so much. Cutting back weed was brutal but doing one week at a time felt doable. Maybe replace it with a tea ritual or short call with a friend. Praying for you and your ease, you’re doing your best.

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I totally get the guilt spiral. Maybe try morning walks with your dog for 10 minutes only, no pressure to run. Routine builds slowly. Dua for you, sister - you deserve kindness from yourself too.

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I had the ‘nothing left to say’ therapist phase too. Maybe try a different format: group therapy, Islamic counselor, or even a coach for habits. Also keeping a 1-line mood note each day helped me spot patterns.

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