Asking if I’ll Attract the Health-Minded Partner I Want - Assalamu alaikum
Assalamu alaikum - I'm worried I won't attract the kind of person I'm drawn to. I'm pretty committed to health and fitness, especially diet, nutrition, and longevity. I lift about 3–4 times a week to build muscle and do body recomp. But I'm not obsessive - I like to relax, enjoy good food, and have fun too. Because of that I'm not as lean as someone who eats perfectly all the time; I'd say I range from average to a bit chubby. I have a feminine shape so the extra weight doesn't sit badly on me, but I definitely don't look like the stereotypical "gym girl." What I really want is a husband who cares about his health and wellbeing the way I do, but is easygoing and likes simple pleasures and good food. My worry is that I won't attract that kind of man. I like my body, but I wonder if men who are into fitness-regular gym-goers who eat whole, balanced meals-will see me as someone who shares their values. Health is my priority and I don't want constant fights about food, or to be stressed about what he cooks when it's his turn. I need both of us to hit our macros and eat whole foods, but also to enjoy life together. I don't want someone shredded or ripped, just healthy and strong. A little extra weight is totally fine with me and actually cute. Still, it feels like many health-conscious men prefer very lean women, and I'm afraid they won't recognize that I'm also serious about health. Anyone else felt this way? Any advice on showing a potential spouse that you're health-focused even if you're not ultra-lean? JazakAllah khair for any thoughts.