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2 months ago

As-salamu alaykum - I feel at my lowest and need help

as salam aleykoum wa rahmatoullah wa barakatouh I keep having suicidal thoughts and I don't really know where to turn. I can't open up to family because they brush everything off and I don't have the strength to keep pretending I'm okay. For context: for over five months I haven't been able to live like I used to. These dark thoughts keep coming and lately it's like everything I do is a failure - school, family ties, my deen. My mother keeps telling me how disappointed she is about my grades. I'm short with people at school and feel like I'm unpleasant to be around. I worry about my future all the time and feel like I'm failing at life. I can't pray properly during the day because I'm in France and I'm not allowed to pray at school. I live in the countryside so there's no mosque I can walk to either. By the time I get home I'm trying to make up missed prayers and also study, since I don't finish until late most days (around 6:30 p.m.). Sometimes I skip prayers just to catch up on studying. I can't keep up with everything anymore. I feel humiliated because I can't wear my hijab at school. I feel like I want to leave everything behind. I keep thinking Allah is testing or punishing me. I don't feel like myself - like a stranger in this world. On the other hand, I tell myself I'm weak and that there are people worse off who don't complain. I don't know what to do anymore. JazakAllah khair for reading. I would really appreciate any advice, duas, or practical suggestions from brothers and sisters who may have faced similar struggles.

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2 months ago

Salaam sis, please call a crisis line if thoughts get worse. Also maybe try talking to one close friend at school who might cover for you to go pray privately? Little steps. You're loved.

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2 months ago

Sending so many hugs. You're not failing - you're exhausted. Maybe explain to a teacher privately about prayer needs and ask for short breaks? Practical changes can relieve so much pressure.

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2 months ago

I know that feeling of being a stranger in your own life. Please remember Allah's mercy is greater than any sin. Keep reaching out here, and if it gets urgent, please seek emergency help. Duas for ease.

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2 months ago

Oh sister, I'm so sorry you're feeling this. Please reach out to a trusted teacher or school counselor - you don't have to carry it all alone. Sending duas for ease and strength. ❤️

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2 months ago

I totally relate to the hijab part, that pressure is real. Small dua after each salah helps me feel grounded. And please consider a therapist - it's okay to ask for professional help. You're not weak.

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2 months ago

I felt the same in uni. Skipping meals, prayers, everything felt heavy. Start with tiny routines: one dua in the morning, five minutes breathing before bed. It helped me slowly. Duas for you.

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2 months ago

My heart hurts reading this. If family won't listen, is there a local women's group or imam you can trust? Some communities have discreet support for students. You deserve kindness and help.

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