Am I Wrong for Feeling This Way About My Mom?
Assalamualaikum wa rahmatullah. I wanted to share something that's been weighing on me, hoping for some advice. I have ADHD, and one tough part of it is something called RSD (Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria), which makes things emotionally harder for me. My mom passed her ADHD to me, even though she knew it runs in the family. She already had two kids without ADHD before me, but she had me after her diagnosis. I understand that Allah has a plan for everything, and I'm grateful for my life, but sometimes it feels like I’m a result of my mom’s careless choice when she was bored and wanted change. She’s a decent mother-not abusive and she tries to care for me-but she only manages the basics because of her own struggles. She supports me as best as she can. Still, living with ADHD has cost me friends, a job, and even made me leave university due to burnout. I struggle with anxiety, depression, restlessness, emotional ups and downs, and chronic fatigue. My family and friends have sometimes made me feel like I don’t really belong. It hurts to think that all this pain comes from a decision made without thinking deeply. Because of all this, I’ve started keeping my distance from my mom. We only talk when necessary. I’m not rude, but I’m not warm either. She feels hurt by this and thinks I’m sinning by not showing her more love. But honestly, I don’t feel that love anymore, no matter how much I try. So I’m asking: Am I committing a sin by being distant and neutral with my mom? What do you think? JazakAllahu khair for listening.