7 Years of Friendship Ended Quietly
As-salamu alaykum, brothers and sisters. How do you handle the pain of a friendship that fades away? I’m feeling a mix of sadness, anger, and a heavy heart. To give some background, my friend was in a relationship but didn’t want to share that with me. I’m okay with her keeping it private, but she kept posting hints about it on social media. Like any close friend, I wanted to know what was going on in her life, so I asked if she was seeing someone. She didn’t answer directly and avoided the question. I took it as a sign she didn’t want me involved, so I stopped asking. Honestly, it hurt. I wondered if I wasn’t trustworthy enough or if she thought I’d be jealous. I’ve never been in a relationship myself, so maybe that’s why she kept it from me? I also got tired of being the only one reaching out, so I stopped messaging her online. But I still greeted her in class. Then one day, her posts were full of sadness, like her relationship had ended. I felt sorry and brought her lunch. I asked what happened, and she opened up to me. I didn’t judge or give advice, just listened. At that point, I thought we were okay. But later I found out she and a mutual friend were hanging out without me, even though we were all on break. It felt like they could have at least included me. After that, I stopped trying in the friendship. We haven’t spoken for five months, and I just found out she blocked me. Some might say I’m the toxic one, but that’s not why I’m sharing this. I’m not here to defend myself, just sharing how it feels when a close friendship ends quietly.