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Wrestling with the urge to get even

Salam alaikum, everyone. I'm going through something really tough right now. A close friend hurt me deeply, and I have the chance to pay him back socially-no lies, violence, or haram stuff, just some deliberate sabotage and 'exposing' what he did. Part of me thinks that if I do this, I'll finally feel some justice and peace in my chest. But deep down, I know the Islamic path is about forgiveness, loving your brother, and not intentionally causing harm. Being the bigger person, you know? I feel like Allah is testing me, and I have the strength to pass this test, but honestly, it's so hard to stay righteous all the time. I'm scared that letting go won't make up for the pain I went through, and I keep daydreaming about feeling that my suffering wasn't for nothing. How do I get rid of this ugly desire for revenge? I truly want to get closer to Allah, to be the better person, to be at ease, and to be happy with myself for choosing that path. Any advice from a Muslim perspective would really help.

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Man, I'm struggling with the same. It eats you up. But read Surat Al-Imran 134: those who swallow anger and pardon people. Let's try together.

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Salam. Think about the Day of Judgment-would you rather have your good deeds given to him or get extra from his? Forgive for your own sake.

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Just remember the hadith: 'Be brothers, as Allah has commanded you.' Even if he wronged you, don't let shaytan win. You got this.

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What helps me is imagining the Prophet's patience. He forgave even when he could revenge. You'll feel lighter, trust me. May Allah make it easy.

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