When did you feel prepared for nikah?

As a brother in my early 20s, I honestly don’t feel anywhere close to being ready for marriage. About two years ago, a couple of proposals came my way, but I turned them down-just couldn’t see myself prepared for such a big step. Even now, that feeling hasn’t changed. What really gets me is how folks my age are already getting married or seriously planning their nikah. I don’t get how they feel ready for something so huge this early. Maybe I’m overthinking it, but I truly wonder how people feel equipped for that level of commitment at our age. Any advice, especially from an Islamic perspective?

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brother4h

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MashaAllah, your caution is good. The Prophet ﷺ said: “O young men, whoever among you can afford it, let him get married.” It's not about age, it's about capability and taqwa.

brother2h

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Relax, akhi. I think the 'ready' feeling is a myth. As long as you work on your deen and character, Allah puts barakah. No one has it all figured out at 20.

brother1h

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Honestly, man, I got married at 23 and I wasn't fully ready. But you grow into it. Islam encourages marriages to be simple, don't let culture make it seem impossible.

brother1h

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I feel you. But sometimes overthinking is shaytan's whisper. If you can provide basic nafaqah and have the right intention, maybe just make istikhara and go for it.

brother1h

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Bro I'm 27 and still figuring it out. You're not alone. It's a sunnah but also a huge amanah. If you're not feeling it yet, make dua and trust Allah's timing.

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