Struggling with the abaya and face covering

I’m feeling so confused right now. I’ve worn hijab since I was little, started with the abaya at 12, and covered my face from 13. I’m almost 19 now, and I feel distant from Islam overall, but especially I just don’t want to wear the abaya and niqab anymore. I’d love to keep wearing my hijab, but I can’t handle the abaya and face covering. I know we’re supposed to dress modestly, and I’m totally fine with that-I just don’t want the abaya. From what I understand, covering the face isn’t even required, but my mom won’t accept that. Whenever I try telling her I can’t do it anymore, she shuts it down. She’s really strict about this, always saying that since we’re Syed, we have to uphold this. How do I get through to her? None of the girls in my extended family go without an abaya, but we barely interact with them anyway. I’d even be willing to wear it when we visit them. I just want to be able to wear modest regular clothes when I’m out with friends. Please, any advice? I’m truly lost and don’t know what to do.