Is my view on tawakkul in this situation wrong?

Assalamu Alaikum, I need some honest Islamic advice on this. Recently, I talked to someone I truly see as a potential husband/wife. We were open with each other and both agreed we can't get married for another 4 to 5 years because we want to finish our studies and become financially stable. They said that since marriage is far off, we should cut all contact. Their thinking was that even occasional messages might build attachment, and instead we should work on ourselves, trust Allah, and if He's destined us for each other, it'll happen at the right time-and if not, they'll accept that. I fully respect their decision and boundaries. But my viewpoint is a bit different. I'm not suggesting frequent talks or an emotional bond. I was just thinking, maybe a quick check-in once every few months, with pure intentions and within Islamic limits, could be part of taking the means (asbab) while relying on Allah. In my understanding, tawakkul doesn't mean zero effort. Like tying your camel and then putting trust in Allah, I felt that keeping minimal, respectful contact with marriage in mind could be a form of effort. So I'm wondering: from an Islamic angle, is my understanding off? Should occasional, purposeful contact between two people who seriously consider each other as spouses be avoided altogether, or are there different scholarly views and personal boundaries on this? I'm genuinely trying to learn. I'm not out to prove anyone wrong, and I respect their choice either way. I just want to know if my thinking is mistaken or if both approaches can exist in Islam. Jazakum Allahu khayran.