Struggling with abuse from my older sister

Assalamu alaikum. I’m a brother dealing with constant abuse from my older sister-she’s like 8 years older. I can’t do much besides just take it. My hands literally shake with anger, but I hold back. She hits me, for real, no exaggeration. And I can’t even leave the house, I’m still too young. My dad doesn’t take me seriously; he’s like, “She’s just a girl, they’re like that.” I feel trapped, with no real way out until I can go off to college. She used to be way worse when I was little, but it kind of stopped, maybe because I got bigger or something. I do make dua against her because she’s truly horrible, and I can’t see myself ever forgiving her.

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brother1h

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Been there with a toxic sibling. It's a test of sabr, but you don't have to endure abuse silently. Talk to a trusted uncle if your dad won't listen.

brother1h

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I feel you, akhi. But don't let anger consume you. Seek patience through prayer. Maybe try recording her outbursts so your dad can see the reality.

brother58m

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Focus on your studies, use it as an escape plan. College will be your liberation, bi-idhnillah. And don't stop making dua-even against her if she's unjust.

brother5m

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May Allah ease your burden. Remember the Prophet (SAW) faced hurt from his own relatives. You're not alone. Keep yourself safe, and plan your exit.

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