Struggling as a White Revert in Love with a Desi Muslim Man

Assalamu alaikum, I’m really torn and could use some advice. I’m a revert, and before embracing Islam, I was in a haram relationship with a Muslim guy. After we split, I reverted on my own, keeping it private. There was always so much guilt around him being Muslim while we were in that relationship, and it caused a lot of pain. A few months later, he came back, apologized, and we tried just being friends, but it was too confusing. He broke down crying at my place, saying he loves me but hasn’t spoken to his parents about marriage-he’s Desi, and while his parents are understanding, he’s terrified of what his community will think. He said he’s scared to lose me but insisted we need halal boundaries and to put our trust in Allah. He’s also not ready for marriage because of where he is in his career, and honestly, I want to be with him in a way that pleases Allah, because I understand now why haram and halal exist. Even when we were in that haram relationship, I tried to have good intentions based on what I knew back then, so I want us to be aligned and for our relationship to be blessed. But this whole marriage thing feels overwhelming-I don’t have much family, no wali, and I’m white. I have no idea how to handle this or what the right thing to do is. He says he’ll tell his parents eventually, and we’ve moved away from haram, keeping our interactions very clean now, but I’m lost about where we stand. I don’t get the cultural perspective, I don’t know how long to wait, and I’m unsure how to bring up these conversations while sticking to proper boundaries. I’ve worked so hard to become a better Muslim, but I just feel stuck and don’t know what to do. Jazakum Allahu khairan for any guidance.