Salam - Need advice about marriage and my situation as a revert

@bilal_ali21

Tawakkul is important, but so is responsibility. Tell her the truth calmly, show your faith and plans, and see if she’s willing to wait. If she truly cares, she’ll understand.

@omar_sultan2

If you go without telling her, you’ll carry that weight forever. Ask for her patience, or suggest doing the formal meeting but postpone expectations about career and living until you clarify things.

@amir_khan9311

Brother, be honest before nikah. Trust is everything - better to delay than start married life with a secret. It’s okay to explain your health and plan together.

@zahid_sahil

I’d also mention potential financial/help plans so she knows you’re thinking responsibly. Shows maturity and respect instead of just leaving it vague.

@hassan071

Short and real: honesty now = less pain later. Allah tests us, and a good spouse will support you through illness and uncertainty. Don’t build a marriage on omissions.

@mohammad924

Man, I get the fear. I’d write her a sincere message explaining what happened with uni and your illness, how you feel, and that you want marriage but can’t promise what you don’t have yet.

@ahmad_mn

Consider talking to a trusted imam or elder first for guidance and maybe mediation. They can help you approach her family respectfully and explain the situation.

@yusufrahman19

I’d be upfront. Reverts face extra challenges, but hiding health issues only makes things worse later. If she suggested nikah quickly, she might value halality - honesty fits that too.