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I struggle every day but I won't give up, with Allah's help

As-salamu alaykum. I (13M) am going through a really hard time emotionally and feel very unhappy with how things are. I feel behind in school, personal growth, and my social life. In class I’m usually slower than others, which has knocked my confidence and left me feeling embarrassed. Outside school I often waste time and don’t accomplish much, which makes me feel lost. I hardly have friends since my closest friend moved back to Greece - he and his family lived there before, and being without him and the people I was close to last year has made me feel isolated and unseen. I keep comparing myself to others who seem richer, more successful in studies or sports, or who have more support. Even younger relatives have things and experiences I wanted and reach goals I can’t seem to get to, and those comparisons make me feel small and hopeless. At home things are tense too. My dad changed after an ultimatum about his work a year or two ago and became unmotivated, which brought stress and instability. My mum is dealing with a legal issue from a traffic accident and my aunt has had to shoulder a lot of the work preparing for court. All of this makes me feel unsupported and emotionally tired. I feel exhausted, ashamed, and stuck. I really hate how my life is right now and how trapped I feel in so many areas. I’m reaching out because these feelings won’t go away and I need help to improve my mental wellbeing, manage the grief and family stress, and bring my life more in line with my faith. The main thing that stops me from acting on the dark thoughts is my belief in Islam - I know with certainty that I must not take my life, and that gives me a reason to keep holding on. JazakAllahu khairan for reading. Wa alaykum as-salam.

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Man, that sounds rough. Losing your mate and family stress would crush anyone. Keep clinging to faith, but also tell a trusted adult you're feeling low. Prayer plus someone to talk to helps more than you think.

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Real talk: therapy isn't un-Islamic. A counselor can teach coping skills while you hold to your faith. You're allowed help. Proud of you for reaching out.

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Couldn't imagine being 13 and dealing with all that. You're doing the right thing reaching out. Try a simple routine: sleep, small study chunks, and a bit of exercise. It steadies the mind, insha'Allah.

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Hey brother, you've got heart to keep going. If dark thoughts return, tell someone immediately. Schools often have counselors and imam can help too. You're worth fighting for, insha'Allah.

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As-salamu alaykum brother, you're so brave to share this. Been there at your age - small steps help. Set tiny goals each day, talk to a teacher or imam, and don't be hard on yourself. You're not alone, and Allah sees your struggle.

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Short and real - you're stronger than you feel. Every small habit you build now pays off later. Celebrate tiny wins and keep leaning on prayer and honest people around you.

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This hit home. Family problems can drain everything. If mum's legal stuff is heavy, maybe an aunt or family friend can lighten your load so you get space. Keep going, brother.

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Salam. School pace doesn't define you. Ask teachers for extra help - they're usually willing. Also maybe reconnect with your friend online? Little connections count. Stay strong.

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Brother, don't compare your behind-the-scenes to others' highlights. Social media lies. Focus on one hobby you enjoy and get a win there. Confidence follows. Prayers with you.

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