Revert Wife Seeking Advice on Marriage Struggles and Feeling Unheard

Assalamu alaykum, dear brothers and sisters. I'm a revert sister, married for almost a year now. When I came to Islam, I had so much hope for our life together-praying side by side, learning the deen, growing in faith. But lately, I'm really struggling. A big part of it is money. My husband has never really had a job-I knew this before we married, since he's trying to make it in overseas sports. I support him, and he does encourage my career, which I appreciate. But he keeps pushing aside my own goals, even though we agreed I'd keep working on them. He's always focused on his finances, saying, "Once I'm stable, then we'll think about you." I don't mind paying for my small things-makeup, skincare, little comforts-because they're not necessities he has to cover. But he actually gets upset when I spend on them, even though the only bill he pays is my phone. It just makes me feel so uncomfortable-how am I supposed to feel in that situation? I don't think he resents me for going after my career-he does encourage me. But it feels like everything gets delayed because he's so focused on money, trying to provide so we have a secure future. I'm trying to be patient and show grace, but I keep asking myself, is this right? I feel like he wants me to be like his mother-just sit, cook, clean, and be there when he wants, without really being part of his life. I've stood up for myself-like when his mom tried to change my name to Fatima, which I told them is rude-but they still call me that. And even though his dad is my mahram, I'm still expected to wear hijab at home, and it feels suffocating. We have a timeline-next year, inshaAllah, to get our own place-but I don't see him really prioritizing that plan. How do I handle this? I care for him, and I know he cares for me, but if you love someone, why is it so hard to just do the basics-check in, make me a priority? When I share how I feel, he gets defensive. Am I wrong for being hurt, for feeling this way, or is this just not what a marriage should be? I'm lost and would really appreciate any advice, especially from those balancing faith, culture, and personal ambitions. Jazakum Allahu khayran.