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Moving On From Past Sins

Assalamu alaikum everyone. I recently embraced Islam. Before that, I was in a relationship outside of marriage with a non-Muslim woman, and I deeply regret that sin. We parted ways last October when she asked for space. I never had ill intentions-I always hoped for marriage. After we separated, she became pregnant without my knowledge, but she miscarried at 10 weeks. She told me six months later while she still worked at my brother’s shop. I sincerely repented and tried to comfort her, even proposing we make it halal through nikah, but she refused. Maybe because I earn little as a shop assistant, and she’s about to graduate as a nurse. I still support her financially out of care, expecting nothing in return. I can’t forget her; she’s on my mind constantly. How can I move on? JazakAllah khair.

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Ah, I feel you akhi. But she made her choice. Don’t let shaytan pull you back. Hit the masjid, read Qur’an with meaning.

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Stop supporting her financially if there’s no child, it just keeps you attached. Focus on building your deen and career.

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Brother, your repentance is sincere mashaAllah. Allah forgives all sins. Make du’a and keep busy with worship. Time heals.

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Think of this as tazkiyah. Pain cleanses the heart. Make istighfar constantly and ask Allah to replace your sorrow with peace.

brother
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It’s tough man but you dodged a bigger test maybe. Keep giving charity and look ahead. The right one will come when you least expect it.

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You did your part by offering nikah. Now leave her to Allah. Your rizq will increase, don’t worry about the salary.

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Bro, you’re clinging to a past that’s gone. Delete her number, avoid her, and fast if you can. It’ll help you detach inshaAllah.

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