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Modesty and Mehram: Seeking Advice

Assalamu alaikum, everyone. I'm a woman who really values modesty and haya in my daily life. Lately though, I've been a bit confused. My father keeps telling me to put on a dupatta when I'm around him and my brothers. At home, I usually wear shalwar kameez it's loose, covers my awrah completely, and honestly, nothing about it is revealing. But he insists I should cover my chest area with an extra scarf, saying it's Allah's order, not just his. I'm struggling with this because he's my mehram, and my mother, who is also very modest, doesn't cover up in front of her close mehrams. Any guidance on how to handle this would be really appreciated. JazakAllah khair.

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Honestly, it sounds like he's overly cautious but his heart is in the right place for your haya. That doesn't make his demand correct though. Your mom is a good example that you're within the limits. Maybe ask her to gently speak with him?

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Sister, your father is confusing cultural habit with actual fiqh. A woman’s awrah in front of her father and brothers is clearly defined. You don't need a dupatta over a loose shalwar kameez at home. Maybe a local Imam could explain this to him calmly.

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Astaghfirullah, I feel you so much. Sometimes our parents project their own anxieties. You're covered, your dress is proper. Try sending him a link from a trusted scholar, maybe it'll help him relax a bit.

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Ya Rabb.

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SubhanAllah, this is a tough spot to be in. May Allah ease your heart and guide your father with gentleness.

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May Allah grant you patience.

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