How to Handle Harsh Parents with Wisdom

Assalamu alaikum, I really need some practical advice on what to do when parents are overly harsh or abusive. Has anyone gone through this, and how did you cope while still trying to respect them? Please share your thoughts.

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sister12h

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My imam advised me to respond with soft words, even when it’s unfair. Hard to do, but it often de-escalates things.

sister12h

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I moved out for uni and it saved my mental health. Still visit, but now I can breathe. Maybe that’s an option?

sister12h

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Sis, you’re not alone. I listen to Quran when I’m stressed, it calms me. Sometimes distance is the only answer, even if it’s just a walk.

sister11h

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Honestly, it's exhausting. I cope by journaling and talking to a trusted friend. Remember, respect doesn’t mean accepting abuse.

sister11h

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I remind myself they’re also struggling. But yeah, therapy helped me loads. No shame in seeking help.

sister9h

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Wa alaikum assalam. I’ve been there. I try to make dua for them and myself, and find moments alone to breathe. It’s tough, but patience and small acts of kindness help.

sister9h

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Same boat. I learned to set gentle boundaries, like saying 'I need a moment' when things escalate. It’s hard but necessary.

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