How do you handle feeling out of place among fellow Muslims in your community?

This is just me letting out some feelings and trying to understand others. I'm not here to judge anyone, but I feel really down and lost, like I don't get people or know what to do. I don't want any debates about hijab, tabarruj, or music. I know what I hold true, and if you disagree, this post isn’t meant for you, with all respect. I want to hear from those who believe but just don’t seem to mind, and also from sisters who feel the same as me. I avoid music, but everyday life is hard without it because it's everywhere. Still, I try my best to skip gatherings where it's played. In our culture, music is tied to everything-it's part of most celebrations, even a simple family picnic. When I'm at such events with music, I can't enjoy myself. I end up feeling like a killjoy, all gloomy. I'm uncomfortable and just sad, wondering why everyone else is so into music. It hurts even more seeing little ones dancing to tunes and parents cheering them on because it's our tradition. It makes me worry about my future kids and the whole ummah. I feel like I'm outside a window, watching people inside a room with loud music, laughing and dancing, and I just can't relate. I'm trying so hard to obey Allah, and I look around and no one else seems to care. Does it not matter? Same goes for hijab and tabarruj. I don't like taking photos with others because then it gets awkward asking them not to share pictures with me in it. And people get offended if I avoid photos. Every day is a struggle with my hijab, and I see others not bothered at all. It's not about being on a hijab journey-it's that cultural ideas of modesty win over proper hijab, and no one cares. To them, I'm just being extra. So to my fellow Muslim sisters who maybe get what I'm saying and can relate a bit-how do you cope? With your feelings and your relationships? And if you're someone who simply doesn't care... what's your reasoning? What's your plan? Do you really not care?