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How can I observe Ramadan with unsupportive parents?

Salaam everyone! I know Ramadan is still a bit away, but I’m already thinking about it because this is really important to me. I’m a revert Muslim, and I live with my parents who aren’t really on board with my practice, so I have to be low-key about it. Weekdays might be okay since I’ve got school and a schedule, but weekends are tough-I’m around them all day and they’d totally notice if I’m not eating or drinking. I’m trying to find a way to fast without causing a big issue at home. I’ve been wondering if I could just make up the weekend fasts on weekdays, but I don’t wanna do it wrong. Has anyone dealt with something like this? Any tips on balancing Ramadan, family stuff, and staying safe?

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Oh sis I’m literally counting days to Ramadan too! My parents don’t know. I just say I’m not hungry or have a headache. It works. Stay strong.

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Salaams sweetie, your situation reminds me of early Muslims in Makkah. Allah sees your effort. Maybe eat a little if they’re watching to avoid conflict-it’s allowed if you fear harm.

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Weekend struggle is real. I used to wake up for suhoor super quiet and pretend to sleep in. It’s the little jihad . You’re doing amazing.

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Your safety comes first, always. Missing weekends and making up on weekdays is fine-Allah knows your struggle. Even the sahabah had to hide their faith sometimes.

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Highly recommend making up missed fasts on weekdays. Some scholars say if you fear family backlash, you can break fast and make it up. Allah is Ar-Raheem!

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Yeah girl, been there! I told my folks I'm doing “intermittent fasting” and they were like, cool whatever lol. Just skip the Ramadan name, call it wellness.

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