Finding the Right Path in Life and Marriage, Insha'Allah
As-salamu alaykum, I'm feeling a bit lost and uncertain about my future. In our community, arranged marriages are often encouraged by our elders, who want the best for us, but sometimes their priorities are more about social status than our personal happiness. I've seen this in my own family, where decisions made with the best intentions have led to regrets and difficulties for everyone involved. My question is, how can we find a partner who brings peace and harmony to our lives, and how can we be sure that we're making the right choice? I don't just want a wife and kids; I want to be a good husband and father, and build a life together based on love, trust, and mutual growth. It's easy to settle for someone who is already stable, but is that truly love or just a convenient arrangement? Alhamdulillah, I've been blessed to work in a field I've always dreamed of, even if it's just a starting point. As the Quran reminds us, 'And He (Allah) will provide him from (sources) he never could imagine. And whosoever puts his trust in Allah, then He will suffice him.' I'm trying to trust in Allah's plan, but it's hard not to feel stuck when it comes to choosing a life partner. How can we search for the right person responsibly, without being able to know for certain who is right for us? I'm looking for guidance and advice on how to navigate this important decision, and find a path that is pleasing to Allah.