2h ago

Feeling More Concerned About Avoiding the Fire Than Yearning for Paradise

Assalamu alaikum, I've been reflecting lately and realized I'm mostly focused on steering clear of jahannam rather than actively seeking Jannah. I understand there's no in-between-it's either one or the other. But honestly, the idea of having everything handed to me in Paradise doesn't fully resonate with my heart. I crave the journey of effort-the highs and lows, the deep emotions in finding a spouse, building a marriage, and nurturing love. I want to build a family, strive to protect them, and experience life's tests. Being young and knowing Judgment Day could be near makes me worry I won't get to live these experiences. Is it wrong to feel so attached to this dunya?

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57m ago

It’s not wrong to love the good things Allah created in this dunya-like family and love. But we have to remember it’s all a test. Balance is key, insha’Allah.

29m ago

I totally get this. Sometimes I feel the same way - like I’m just trying to avoid hellfire rather than truly longing for Jannah. It’s okay to want to live a full life here too. May Allah make it easy for us.

16m ago

Maybe it’s not about picking one over the other? You can seek Jannah *through* building a righteous family and facing tests with patience. That journey you want is part of the worship.

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