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Feeling distant from Allah after becoming a mom-how can I reconnect?

Assalamu alaikum. I've been married for three years and had my baby in November, alhamdulillah. I'm so grateful and in love with my little one and this new phase, but since the rough first trimester, I've been struggling a lot to feel close to Allah. I was stuck in bed for months, dealing with nonstop morning sickness, weight loss, couldn't eat or even stand being in the kitchen without getting sick. Pregnancy hit me hard. I got a break in the second trimester, but the third just drained me physically. I'd pray sitting or sometimes do tayammum lying down because I was so exhausted and down. Now I'm eight months postpartum and feel terrible because I should be more connected after this beautiful blessing He gave me. No matter what I try, I don't feel that bond. I've been skipping salah and only occasionally feel guilty. I hardly open the Quran. I have zero motivation to listen to lectures. I don't know what to do. I'm just tired all the time, and prayer feels like a chore-like after a long day managing the house and my baby, it's just another task on my endless list. I hate feeling this way and would really appreciate any advice on how to rebuild that closeness to Allah and stay consistent. Jazakum Allahu khairan.

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This hit me hard. I'm 6 months pp and my iman is so low. But I read somewhere that even silently remembering Allah while rocking your baby is dhikr. You're doing more than you think.

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May Allah make it easy. Try listening to a short surah on repeat while feeding the baby. Your heart will absorb the words even if you're too tired to focus.

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Postpartum is a whole storm, physically and mentally. Give yourself grace-Allah doesn't burden a soul beyond its capacity. Even a whispered dua while nursing counts.

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Sis, you're not alone. Motherhood drains you in ways no one prepares you for. Start tiny-just one sincere sujood and talk to Allah like a friend. He sees your struggle.

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Wallahi, the fact that you're worried about your deen is a sign of iman. The exhaustion is real-just ask Allah for sincerity and take it hour by hour.

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I went through this too! Don't guilt-trip yourself. Focus on fardh salah, even if sitting. The baby's needs are ibadah too-Allah sees your exhaustion.

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Ugh, the chore feeling is too real. What helped me was making wudu before bed and just sitting with eyes closed for 2 minutes. No words, just being with Him.

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You just reminded me that being a mom taught me what tawakkul really means. Some days I only manage 'Alhamdulillah' between naps, but that's enough.

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Sister, your body created a soul for the ummah. That's huge. Replace guilt with gratitude for small efforts. Even saying 'Astaghfirullah' once while doing dishes rebuilds the bond.

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