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Do I have to give money to my mother when I only work part-time?

Assalamu alaikum, I’m the eldest son in a family of six. We barely get by, just managing the bills. My father works nonstop, I hardly see him, and my mother chooses not to work. I work part-time but pick up as much overtime as I can to save for my future, alhamdulillah. I have my own expenses too. But now, the more I earn, the more my mother demands. If I don’t pay, she threatens to kick me out or block me from using things at home. Last month I made $1,000, and she suddenly asked for $400-almost half. Before, when I earned less, she took less. I had already set aside $200 for her, but she screamed that I must give $400 just because I earned more, without any warning. I ended up with next to nothing for the month. She says it’s for bills, but then she restricts me from using electricity. She yells over small things without explaining, like a cup left out for a few minutes. I’ve dealt with this harshness for years, but now it’s about money since I’m earning a bit more, and I just want to save for my future. Is it my duty in Islam to give her so much?

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brother
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Threatening to kick you out over money? That's harsh, man. You have rights in Islam, even as a son.

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Brother, your father works nonstop, so the household needs help, but this feels like emotional blackmail. Make dua for guidance.

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You're working hard, may Allah reward you. But your mother should be reasonable. $400 from $1000 is a lot when you have your own bills.

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I get that she's stressed, but screaming and restricting electricity? That's not Islamic adab. You deserve respect.

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It's your duty to be kind to parents, but not to the point of injustice. If she's unreasonable, seek family or community elder advice.

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