Worried About What Happens After I Pass Away

As Muslims, we need to always stay on top of our matters and get ready for the day our souls go back to Allah (SWT). I embraced Islam later in life, and my kids' dad was also a convert. We ended up divorcing, and he passed away two years after that. When I got the news, I reached out to the local masjid because his relatives weren’t Muslim. The masjid was kind enough to offer covering the burial expenses and arranging things so he could be laid to rest in a Muslim graveyard, following Islamic traditions. But his family refused-they insisted on burying him next to his brother who had passed away before. Since we were no longer married and the children were little, I couldn’t legally object. His family left him at the morgue for weeks, had the funeral at a church, and eventually cremated him. They even gave my kids lockets with some of his ashes inside. I was devastated. I still feel guilty and ask myself if I should have tried harder to stop them. Islam teaches us to treat the deceased with dignity and care, and it broke my heart to watch everything go against his beliefs. Now fast forward: I’m Islamically married to my current husband through the masjid, but we’re not legally married on paper. We’re also living apart right now due to some personal circumstances. I’ll be moving soon, more than 12 hours away, to be near my family for my own reasons. While planning this move, it hit me: if something happened to me, my family would probably be the ones in charge after my death. They’re Christians, and I love them, but I don’t want to be handled in a non-Muslim way. My brother also became Muslim, but I’m not sure he fully gets how crucial it is for me to have an Islamic burial-being buried as quickly as possible and having my wishes honored. Honestly, this thought terrifies me. If, Allah forbid, something goes wrong in my marriage, I might end up with no one to make sure I’m buried the Islamic way. After I settle in, I intend to reach out to the local mosque and see what I can do to prepare. For now, I’m putting my trust in Allah (SWT). If anyone out there has advice, went through something similar, or knows how to make sure my burial wishes are carried out, I’d really appreciate hearing from you.