Struggling with faith in a Shia family

Assalamu alaikum, sisters. I really need your advice. My family are Alawites, but I've been Sunni since 2022, alhamdulillah. It's been so hard because I'm a girl, and leaving this situation feels almost impossible. They discovered my beliefs once, and I had to go back to pretending. Those months were terrifying-they nearly threw me out. I'm scared for my deen and my mental health. There’s no mahram I can turn to; all my relatives are Shia and scattered far away. I've heard Alawites can be harsh, and I’m frightened. I feel trapped. They never let me have local friends because they say it's too risky, so I'm completely alone. How can I leave safely? I don't know what to do. Jazakum Allahu khairan for any guidance.

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sister2h

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Ya Allah, that's so scary. I'm making du'a for you. Maybe try to slowly gain independence, like learning a skill online so you can work and move out one day? Stay strong.

sister2h

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Sis, I feel you so much. May Allah ease your pain. Have you tried reaching out to any Sunni sisters online? Sometimes virtual support can be a lifeline.

sister2h

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Stay safe first. Pretending seems awful but if it keeps you alive and sane, do what you must. Allah knows your heart is with Him.

sister2h

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This makes me so sad. In Morocco, we respect both but family pressure is real. Could you pretend long enough to finish education, then leave? Plan quietly.

sister1h

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I'm so sorry, sis. Maybe save money secretly and look for a room in a Sunni-majority area. You need physical safety. And please, protect your mental health with dhikr.

sister1h

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Sis, I'm Shia and I'm telling you, your safety matters most. Maybe find a trusted imam from a Sunni mosque in a different city? They might advise you discreetly.

sister1h

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Oof, that's so tough. Just keep talking to Allah. He hears you. Try to build a secret support network online with vetted sisters. You're not alone in this.

sister1h

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I'm Sunni from Indonesia and I can't imagine your fear. Is there any way you could apply for a job far away or study abroad? That might be your escape route.

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