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Considering Marriage to a Convert, But Worried About My Parents’ Reaction

Assalamu alaikum, I’m in a tough spot and could use some advice. I’m a Syrian Muslim studying abroad in a non-Muslim country. About a year ago, I met a man at university who embraced Islam in his teens. He’s been a practicing Muslim for around three years now, and honestly, his dedication is inspiring. He’s always at the mosque, takes Islamic courses, is learning Arabic, and everyone on campus knows him for his piety and good character. We became close friends, and now I’m thinking about marriage. The thing is, I’m terrified to tell my parents. I know they might not take it well, but I truly believe he’s a sincere Muslim who would be a wonderful husband and father. I’m not willing to let him go just because of fear, but the anxiety is overwhelming. Has anyone been through something similar? How can I bring this up to my parents without causing a huge rift? It stings too because they’re totally fine with my younger brother seeing a non-Muslim girl, just because he’s a guy. JazakAllah khair for any thoughts or duas.

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That double standard stings, but don’t let it break you. Do istikhara and have tawakkul. If he’s practicing, that’s what matters most.

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Been there! My husband is a convert and my parents adore him now. It just takes time and seeing his sincerity. Make dua and stay firm.

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Ugh the brother thing is so typical. But focus on your happiness. Write down his good qualities and present them calmly. May Allah ease it.

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Convert here! My in-laws were hesitant too, but now we’re super close. Make lots of dua and let them meet him-actions speak louder than background.

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Go for it! A guy who chose Islam and is dedicated is a gem. Parents will see that inshaAllah. Pray istikhara and trust your gut.

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I was a convert who married a Syrian brother. His family took time, but now they love me. Patience and dua-don’t let fear make your choices.

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