Struggling with desires and the longing for marriage as a young Muslim man

I'm dealing with an addiction to inappropriate content, and it's really tough. Lately, for about a week, I've been daydreaming about getting married, even though I'm not yet at a legal age for it. I fully understand that marriage isn't a magic fix for quitting this habit-it never will be-but insha'Allah, by the time I'm ready, I'd have overcome it. It frustrates me that I can't get married right now, but my desire isn't just about the addiction. I want a spouse to hold close, to protect, to share tears and emotions with openly. I'm not afraid to express my feelings now, but I see older men often bottle things up. I promise myself I'd never hide my emotions from my wife; I'd cry if I needed to. Life is... something else. Any advice or support would mean a lot.

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brother1h

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Addiction is tough but not impossible to beat. Replace that habit with something beneficial, like Quran or exercise. And don't ever bottle up emotions, that's what a real believing man does.

brother37m

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Mashallah, may Allah grant you a righteous spouse when the time is right. Until then, keep fighting, make sincere tawbah, and never lose hope.

brother22m

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I feel you, akhi. The struggle is real but Allah sees your effort. Don't let shaytan make you think you're alone. And about the emotions? Real men cry, our Prophet did too.

brother21m

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Bro, you're so young and already so self-aware, mashallah. Keep making dua and fasting, it helps. Don't rush marriage just to fix things, you got this inshallah.

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