Seeking Guidance on My Marital Journey

Assalamu Alaikum, I'm writing to ask for Islamic advice about my marriage as I'm feeling really confused and drained. I'll share my story honestly, hoping for some clarity. Growing up, I saw my parents have such a peaceful and loving marriage-they always showed each other kindness and respect. That made me dream of a marriage filled with mercy, companionship, and a path to Jannah. From the start, I told my husband I wanted a calm home, children with good character, and a supportive family life. I chose to focus on being a homemaker after graduation, though sometimes I regret not doing more while waiting for marriage. Back in 2019, we started talking with marriage in mind. He expressed a lot of love and promised a future together. But during the engagement, I found out he had a haram relationship with his cousin, which was heartbreaking. When I confronted him, he asked for forgiveness, but his parents canceled the wedding and blamed me, even though they knew what he did. There was a lot of family conflict, and he disappeared for a while, which later seemed like a lie. Eventually, our fathers agreed to proceed with the nikah in early 2024, on the condition that the past issue stayed private. After the nikah, the ruksati was delayed over and over-first six months, then about a year and a half. When I finally moved in, his mother wasn't welcoming, and I was given an empty room without basic things, making me feel uncomfortable. Early on, I had a miscarriage, which was emotionally very hard. Instead of staying with me, my husband went back to his parents out of fear of their anger, which hurt me deeply. Since then, there's been constant tension with his family, and my husband often tells me to just ignore the problems instead of fixing them. I'm not perfect either-with all the stress, I've raised my voice, argued, and even said harsh words to my husband and my parents, which I regret. There's no physical abuse, but I feel exhausted and anxious all the time. Recently, I came to stay with my parents during Ramadan for some peace. Now with Eid coming, my husband says he'll celebrate with his family, even though he knows how uneasy I feel at their house. This has left me really unsure about my marriage and future. My questions are: • Islamically, how should I evaluate my marriage after all this? • Is patience still the right way, or are these serious red flags? • Is it wrong to feel emotionally unsafe with my in-laws in this situation? • What does Islam say when you still care for your spouse but feel constantly anxious and drained? I truly want to do what's right in Allah's eyes and protect my mental and spiritual well-being. Jazakum Allahu khairan for any sincere advice.